The other side of Einstein
Einstein was prevented from being an official student at the university because he failed in all subjects except chemistry, physics, and mathematics. However, some professors allowed him to attend on the condition of commitment like any student, but without obtaining a certificate from them in the end.
During this time, he met a genius woman, whose name was Mileva, and he nicknamed her “Dolly” because she resembled Russian toys and dolls. She was the only female student whose customs and traditions at that time allowed her to pursue her university studies in a male-only field. She was the smartest, and some even described her as being far ahead of Einstein in thinking outside the box. She passed all the tests and even helped Einstein pass an important test.
At some point, a strong love relationship arose between them, and she became pregnant with his first child through an illegitimate relationship. Because of this, she was unable to take the graduation exam and thus lost her certificate. When she became pregnant with her first child, she returned to her father while she was hesitant, as her father had sought from all the schools during her childhood to agree to enroll their daughter in the classes that were full of boys, and he raised her to be serious about her work and to marry only someone who would stand by her and hold her hand, even if he waited a long time. When Dolly arrived home and told him that she had failed the test, he excitedly told her, "That's okay, there's a test coming up. Let's start preparing for it." When he hugged her, he discovered that she was pregnant. He discovered that his efforts during all those years ago to bring out a new scientist to the world would be wasted as soon as this child was born.
(According to historical accounts, the identity and fate of Einstein's first child is unknown. He went missing in his second year. It is said that she was a girl, fell ill and died, and it is said that she became one with special needs and was sent to a special home and her origin was denied, or she was put up for adoption. What the world knows That there is a daughter of his, and no one knows what happened to her and where she went, despite all the research that has not stopped until this year).
Einstein with his first wife, Mileva Marek "Dolly"
Years later, Dolly and Einstein married, and Dolly gave birth to his second and third child. Their relationship was more than wonderful. Whenever he thought of a new project, he would find his wife staying up late for it, writing and thinking about the projects with him, and sometimes when he was exhausted, he would wake up and find that she had written all the research for him, and even corrected the mistakes that he had not noticed.
Dolly's mother lived with them and took care of the children and the house when her daughter was busy. But Dolly suddenly found herself leaving science and research and spending most of her time cleaning the house and preparing food because Einstein was forced to travel to other countries because of his work. Dolly tried in various ways to balance the balance, but Einstein's laziness and excessive selfishness left her alone, and he left her no choice, so Dolly left everything to take care of her children, and agreed to be only a housewife and gave up her professional dreams in order to raise them. The differences between Einstein and Dooley increased whenever she saw him go about this world, from a conference to a lecture to an award, while she was throwing herself on the sofa after arranging the children’s rooms, trying to remember the last equation she had solved.
Einstein's selfishness and love for science increased when his research began to spread, and at some point he met another beautiful girl, and a relationship developed between them, after which he asked for a divorce from Dolly. Einstein described his home with Dolly as “cloudy,” and his home with his mistress as “sunny.” He saw Dolly as an angry, unhappy wife, with her hair disheveled and spending her time waiting for him to return from his trips to ask him where you were. While he saw in his mistress an intelligent and elegant woman, dressed in the most beautiful colors, always perfumed, and with her hair styled. But Dolly refused to divorce. Based on Jewish laws at that time, Einstein could not divorce his wife without her consent, and because she refused, he made a list of things that Dooley must do in order to make this relationship successful.
This is what the list contained:
1-Providing 3 hot meals daily.
2-Going out to the market once every two days to shop.
3-Cleaning the house daily without anyone’s help.
4-Not asking Einstein anything about his work and meetings.
5-When Einstein asks her to leave a room because he is busy thinking, she must leave immediately without objection.
6-Do not ask him for any household tasks.
7-Cut off any intimate relationship between them.
8-Do not accompany him to any meeting or business trip.
Although she knew about his infidelity, she carried out the conditions out of fear for her children, and because society at that time also viewed a divorced woman as “unlucky,” while an unfaithful man was viewed as having a “freak” or that his wife was definitely negligent with him.
Einstein with his second wife Elsa (social networking sites)
She would sit for hours crying alone as she saw everything she dreamed of, and everything her father dreamed of, had become a thing of the past. Einstein even published many of the papers that she and her effort had written, and when she asked him to put her name on the paper next to his, he replied to her, “You and I are one, and it is not necessary to differentiate by names.” This situation continued until his wife became a ghost that no one knew, after she was the smartest science student in all of Europe.
After life became impossible between them, they separated without divorce for years, and lived in two different countries. Before he returned to ask for a divorce so that he could marry his mistress. This is the story of a great, genius man. We know a lot about his knowledge, but we know very little about his life. His biography is full of social confusions that made him feel that science, research, and success were his priority, while his wife’s priority was taking care of the children. In an indirect way, he makes her feel that what he offers to the world is more important than what she offers.
Einstein was undoubtedly a genius, and he gave the world what no one before him had offered, before he met Dooley, during his marriage, and after his divorce. But he deprived Dolly and the world of what it might have been, and in his research he denied any role for it in a period when he was weak and even he doubted his knowledge. My belief in women's maternal nature is strong, but my belief is also strong that there are sometimes other tendencies and desires that may overpower, overwhelm, and triumph over this nature.
Dolly has never been happy in her life...and she has never wanted to have any child. Einstein lived carrying the guilt of depriving the person he loved (Dolly) of what she loved (science), and turning her into a person she did not want to be because of his submission to a society that defined each gender’s role. And they died for that..
100years after this story, it is still repeated every day in many societies.
This is your role, this is his role, and anything else is not right.
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