? What are the causes of verbal or physical violence against the wife
Women often pay an unequal marriage tax because of which they bear the cruelty of the husband for fear of ruining the house, and the matter may extend to exploiting her weakness and beating her, and there are those who fall victim to this unjustified violence and pay her life as a price for it, such as the doctor in one of the Arab countries, whose news of her death spread since A few days later, she was slapped by her husband and knocked her to the ground.
This is not the only incident, there are cases who suffer in silence behind closed doors .
Reasons for verbal or physical violence against the wife
Dr. says. Fouad Al-Amiri, PhD in Chemistry, “Courts are full of family dispute cases, and the problem of a man’s abuse of his wife always comes to the fore in these cases. He grew up in an environment full of constant quarrels and quarrels, and the scene of insulting and beating his father to his mother followed him, or he may have been exposed since childhood to the absence of moral containment, or persecution by his family, which was born within him violence and cruelty, so he resorts to revenge from those around him, especially his wife, who assaults her by beating and insulting to unload his anger, It is assumed that a woman should not accept living humiliation, and as long as she accepts the continuation of her marital relationship, she should avoid provoking a life partner when he is angry, and not engage in sharp discussions with him in order to win over him or win the position, as his loss of self-control and emotional stability may lead to disasters that may reach to death in some cases.
UAE law protects battered women
Dr.. Bassem Hassan Al-Naqbi, assistant professor of international law and human rights, affirms, “Marriage life is based on affection and mercy. And only a mean person insults her."
And he continues, "Not only did the true religion protect the woman, but the law also protected her, as a ruling was recently issued to fine a husband 30,000 dirhams for assaulting his life partner, and among the examples of family cases related to the spouses, a woman filed a lawsuit in which she asked to oblige the husband to pay her 400,000 dirhams as compensation. For psychological, material and moral harm with obligating him to pay fees, expenses and attorney fees, noting that the defendant “her husband” used to beat and insult her, and the court ordered him to pay the complainant compensation in the amount of 20 thousand dirhams, and many other lawsuits filed for damage, and what we say has occurred some Disagreements between spouses, and this is normal and what they must do to remedy them and seek solutions to them, before they escalate and become a habit and reach the corridors of the courts.”
Wife beating.. Weakness in character
says Dr. Ruqayya Hussein, Muhammad, an educational and family consultant, “There are those who dare to insult the dignity of the closest people to themselves, to their soul, to their conscience, and even to their whole life, the one that they chose with all their will and being, and even thought hundreds of times until they were chosen rather than others. And perhaps the matter may reach more than this as severe beatings, which raises an alarm bell, as the life that is supposed to be security, safety, love, respect, affection, calmness, stability and sympathy turns into war and conflict, and a criminal and a victim suffer psychological, spiritual, emotional and physical torture, which requires A real pause with ourselves in which we reconsider our accounts because the method of insult or violence Or beating or any kind of abuse will only be counterproductive. The wife has her dignity. She came out of a tired house and everyone in it sacrificed in order to raise her to another house where she is supposed to live in an honorable way. She is praised in the event of obedience and directed calmly, wisely and patiently in case of failure. Unfortunately, there are some husbands who turn life into an unbearable hell of cruelty, violence, prolongation, humiliation and severe beatings, which we as family counselors often do not find any justification for.
And she continues, “Some studies and research have proven that spouses who emit violent reactions up to beating are unfortunately lacking in self-confidence, have pathological backgrounds, feel inferior, or have a negative history of childhood or adolescence, or who were brought up in an abnormal environment in which the same pattern was used. And the way in dealing with its members.”
And she asserts, “The treatment is easy and simple, beginning with a pause with the soul, in which the husband reminds himself “that the highest thing in my life after God is my family.” As the Prophet of Mercy mentioned: “The best of you is the best of you to his family, and I am the best of you to my family,” in addition to training in patience, suppressing anger and diverting the course of conversation Or leave the place until the atmosphere of bitterness and violence subsides, and finally remember the most important point, which is that the method of insult, insult, violence and beating does not solve a problem.
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