The persistent child complains a lot: the best methods and ways to deal with it
Hello to all my dear child's world visitors, many parents complain about the surge of urgency and complaints that they discover in their children, which makes it difficult for them to deal with them. A persistent and often complaining child is a child who has not learned patience, and if he does not get what he wants, he begins to get angry and cry or throw himself on the ground in order to elicit the sympathy of others or as an urgent desire to get things and deliberately do these actions in the presence of others. How should ??? we deal with him in order to correct his behavior
The most important reasons that lead to a child who complains a lot:
This may be an imitation of a close person or a peer who does so.
- One of the most important reasons is the excessive pampering and the quick response to requests, as the child finds a quick response from the parents to get rid of crying, so he adopts his distinctive style and gets used to it because he fulfills all his desires.
It is also possible that feeling insecure and not getting enough love and attention from parents is one of the most important reasons for this, and the child seeks to draw attention to him through this method.
Feeling bored also and the lack of any activity to do or any skill to spend his time and benefit from, the child resorts to this behavior to attract attention.
??How can we confront and modify this behavior
We have to wait until he calms down and then talk to him, and avoid expressing our understanding of his feelings (during his revolution) or trying to direct him because he may understand that we are denying his feelings and thus trying to communicate them more forcefully, or he will find that his behavior attracts the attention he wants and thus continues his behavior is not acceptable.
In directing our child, we must focus on the child's unacceptable behavior and not attack his personality, that is, we attack the wrong behavior, not the child.
We must avoid giving in to his urgency to get rid of his weight because this will support his unwanted behavior as he finds that it brings a result, and we must also avoid answering his request until he asks in an appropriate manner and in a polite tone.
In some situations, the child can be left. The child will find that his urgent behavior does not achieve what he wants and does not give him the attention he is looking for, and also letting the child give him the opportunity to think again about the way he should speak.
We must tell the child the behavior that we expect from him in a certain way instead of saying “don’t” for example “I expect you” when you want something to say “please” instead of saying “don’t talk loudly”.
Establishing rules for the child's requests and sticking to them, such as setting hours per day for playing on the computer, days for buying sweets, or the amount required to buy them.
Agreeing with the child on a punishment if he cries or insists on getting something untimely or asking for it from others.
Avoid hitting, as violence will not solve the problem, but may increase it.
Avoiding excessive control of the child and not giving him the ability to choose or express himself.
Our facial features, our looks, and our body movements should reflect firmness and determination, and we will not back down from our position in not answering his request until he speaks in the appropriate manner.
- Consistency in the situation. We should not be concerned with the words of others and the extent of their conviction in the way we raise our child. We must do what we see as right and good for him.
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