How do we tactfully answer our child's embarrassing and sexual questions? The most important tips on the topic
Welcome to all my dear visitors to my child’s world. One of the most important information and questions about the ideal education of children. One of the most important things that put parents in embarrassing situations are children’s sexual questions and all the questions that a child thinks about this subject, such as where does the child come from? How does pregnancy happen? And other questions. The topic is sensitive, yes, but we must answer and we, as parents, must be the source of information so that the child cannot search for other sources. Simple and correct appropriate information should be given in a calm family atmosphere without provocation or intimidation and in a neutral, logical tone. It is preferable for the father to talk to his son and the mother to her daughter, and this is easier for everyone.
Top tips for answering children's embarrassing and sexual questions:
It is not possible to give all the information at once, and it can happen in stages, at the right time and in the right atmosphere.
Tell him that there is a certain part of the father that he gives to the mother, and God Almighty puts the soul into it and it grows, and God teaches the father how to give this part.
As for the exit of the fetus, there is an opening in the lower abdomen of the mother through which the fetus exits as soon as its growth is completed and it is able to live on its own outside of her womb.
It is very important to explain to your children that God gave them this body to keep, and that it should never be touched by anyone except the mother or father when necessary.
And at the age of nine, when they approach puberty, you have to talk to them simply and clearly about the changes that will happen to their bodies at puberty so that they do not suffer a shock.
And if the child, especially the girl, does not ask any sexual questions to the mother, she should not be happy because she got rid of the embarrassment of these questions, but on the contrary, she should take the initiative to talk to her daughter so that she gets the correct information from her personally in order to avoid any trauma that the child may experience if she receives information by chance. It may cause her confusion or fear.
Often the mother sees by chance her daughter and her son or her son and the neighbor’s daughter or vice versa while they are playing (the doctor’s game) by trying to discover each other’s bodies, and knowing the difference between them. In this case, you should not panic, but go calmly towards your child and ask him to stop playing this game and explain To him that the body of every child is a secret and special to every child, so it must be kept secret, and it must be preserved and not allowed to be seen or touched by anyone.
One of the common mistakes in dealing with the child's body is excessive cleaning, massaging, and spraying "powdered" disinfectants in the sexual areas. Of course, it is necessary to take care and hygiene of the sexual organs in a healthy manner, but without excessive and exaggeration.
Why does a man not give birth to a child?
.God created women to give birth and raise children, and he created men to do the work that needs strength
Among the legal rules that the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, urged in disciplining the child so that he does not see anything that provokes his instinct to question are the following:
: ask permission
Children must seek permission at all times and whenever a closed door is found in front of it, and teach them the verses of Surat Al-Nur in a way that suits their understanding.
:Gaze
The child should be accustomed to lowering his gaze, for everything the child sees remains in his mind and memory.
: covering the private parts
Accustoming a child to cover his nakedness creates a polite and upright personality
: differentiation in bed
When the children reach the age of ten, it is preferable to put each child in a bed alone
Avoid sleeping on the stomach
This keeps the child away from many sexual irritants, and it is preferable to sleep on the right side, while repeating some of the supplications from the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, before sleeping.
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