? Parents’ “Disease” Of Delaying And Procrastinating... What Does It Do To Their Children
Postponement:
Samer, when you have time, can you take out the little girl's bed and
? put it in the attic so I can arrange her new room
? Of course, do you mind if I do that during the day
! It's okay, it's not an emergency
Two days later, his worried wife tells him:
? Do you intend to untie a small crib
Excuse me, I totally forgot! I will do that immediately.
Three days later, Samer asked his wife, surprised:
? What do you do
! You see, remove the bed
! But I told you I would
That's right, but I asked for your help a week ago and it still hasn't happened! I will not wait for the girl to be of such an age that the room will no longer be suitable for her!
! Postpone delay
One of the main symptoms of persistent deferment sickness is the "I told you I'm going to do it" formula, and this is what we will now
study more closely.
Remember that “will” is the word preferred by people with the best intentions, but they do not go beyond it to the point of action. The verb “to say” is the stumbling block that hinders the transition to this verb. What if this verb is used in the past tense? Your partner has the right to doubt your good intentions because he knows, just like you, that what is said does not necessarily happen; While what is done does not necessarily need to be said. It is very difficult to make the effort effectively in both directions. The energy you expend in talking about what you will do, you cannot use to carry out what you are talking about.
The more words, the less action. "I told you I'd do it" is a headline for ineffectiveness. If you are those who repeat this phrase, know that it condemns you to live in dreams that will never set foot on the ground, not to mention that we did not talk about the bad example that you give to that little girl who is not deceived by your “meaning” to arrange her new room.
Choose words
Correct your words immediately and out loud! “I will do it tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow, or on Eid,” but never say, “I will.” This may seem like a simple tip, but you need a lot of mental energy to pay attention to your bad speech habits and get rid of them.
The frequent use of “will” to express a work you intend to do in the future may turn into a germ that pollutes your image in the eyes of your children. And not only that, delay is a typical behavior that leads to failure and is rooted in our minds to childhood (between 3 and 6 years). It is the direct result of a permissive upbringing, as we usually find it in the only son or in the children brought up on this basis. The level of what parents impose on their only son (or daughter) is much lower than what is imposed on the children of a large family, as chaos is always less troublesome if we have an only child to raise. Tom's mother asks her son, "I want you to tidy up your room." And the boy replies, "I'll do it later, Mama!"
The first time your son or daughter answers you with "I'll do that later," a siren should sound in your head. Reliability begins at the age of three. Do not pretend to ignore it, as this is not in the interest of your child.
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