The best way to deal with a stubborn child
Hello to all my dear child's world visitors, almost all mothers complain about the problem of stubbornness in their children, but do you think our children are really stubborn, or are we the ones who are ignorant of interacting with them correctly? At the age of two years, the first word he learns is “no.” “No” here means I exist. He wants to feel his presence and that he has an independent opinion. In this article, we show together the importance of understanding our child and our child's behavior before we see him as stubborn and deal with him on this basis. Watch the article to the end.
The family deals with childhood "no" in two ways
The first method is that it actually teaches the child to be independent and to be a thinking and acting being, even if he makes a mistake, he learns from his mistakes. He is a child who takes responsibility and is able to make decisions when he grows up.
The second method is one that restricts freedom. You are a child who does not understand. I am older than you. I know your interest. You are only required to carry out the words.
In the first method: the family needs to enjoy a degree of flexibility and freedom so that they can give their children a space of freedom.
The second method: Without any doubt, the family will have the problem of the stubborn and rebellious child, and each party among them, the father and the son, begins to be stubborn, and in most cases the children are the ones who win because they enjoy long life.
In adolescence, a child who was not allowed to say “no” when he was a young child will say it more strongly in adolescence, and here we see the problems of rebellion between parents and children.
Or it may appear to us a second type of adolescents have problems with social shyness and the inability to interact with others. They do not even have the ability to claim or defend their rights because he is used to being a subject to the parents who have imposed their control over him and prevented him from gaining self-confidence.
? Why should we involve the child and make him express his opinion
A child who objects and wants to express his opinion, is a child who has a mature personality when he grows up and is good at dealing with situations.
As for the child who is asked only to hear the words and execute without even understanding, when he grows up, he will encounter problems in acting in the simplest things because he has not learned to think or express his opinion. Here we will have a person who has a sense of failure, helplessness and irresponsibility.
But not everything he wants should be taken or provided. Here comes the role of dialogue and agreement until we reach a compromise solution that satisfies both parties.
For example, a child in commercial spaces is very active and excited and wants to buy many things.
How do we implement with him the method of dialogue and agreement?
Before going to spend the necessities of the house, we specify the requests and write them on a piece of paper, and we single out the child, for example, with two things for him from the list and write them down and make an agreement with him that if he maintains calm and respect from the time of going out until returning to the house, we reward him with them, but if the opposite happens, he is deprived of his purchases. If he does not respect the agreement, we inform him that this is the result of his non-compliance with the agreement. Thus, we teach the child to take responsibility for his decisions.
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