? What are the most dangerous forms of narcissism and how do they affect our lives
In this increasingly competitive world, narcissists have assumed important positions, and a society based on the skill of performance and consumption is pushing individuals to focus more and more on themselves, enhancing their narcissistic traits to choose from among the most narcissistic and elevate them to the highest positions.
? What are the most dangerous forms of narcissism and how do they affect our lives
According to the book "The Companions of Nargis" by Dr. Marie France Yrigoyen There is a traditional tendency to classify the pathologies of narcissism into two basic categories:
A category that stems from excessive self-love is grandiosity narcissism, or grandiosity
A category that stems from a lack of self-love and is fragile narcissism
However, these two diseases both stem from the same problem and hide a great internal fragility, a lack of self-confidence, and doubts about one's own abilities and the possibility of obtaining the love of others. To these two basic categories is added a more dangerous category, the perverted narcissists, or "saccopaths".
First: Grandiose narcissism or grandiosity
It is the form of narcissism that is easily recognizable, and the picture we draw about it is close to that of people who have simple narcissistic traits, but they differ mainly in their inability to love and respect the other for what he is and not for what he can offer them, as well as their inability to separate from themselves to open up to the other.
While illness is usually measured by the degree of pain the patient feels, narcissistic personality disorder is measured by the negative impact it has on others.
Being so narcissistic leads to an infernal spiral
The grandiose narcissist considers himself superior to the other and thinks that for this reason he should rightly benefit from transgressing the law and morals.
At work, as in all gatherings, he leads and gives himself value at the expense of others.
In the first stage he gets what he wants and meets useful partners, but the story generally ends poorly.
These narcissists focus first on themselves, they need to be the center of any group, they talk profusely about their accomplishments and their “great” projects, and in conversation, they put themselves first, they monopolize and claim they know everything more than everyone else and everything they say enthusiastically seems exceptional.
And since everything revolves around their person, they tend to start all their sentences with “I,” “I did this, I said this, I succeeded in this….” Convinced that they deserve the exceptional position they occupy, they allow themselves to do so. Whatever they want and think that everything is their duty, they give themselves all the privileges.
They also consider that others are incapable of understanding them, so they choose the best lawyers, doctors or dressers and seek befriending people of renown because their self-esteem is increased by the value they ascribe to these people.
They may achieve success in their relationships because they seek admiration and recognition, praising those above them and reflecting a positive image of themselves, thus succeeding in occupying high positions.
A narcissist is unable to give love and affection
In contrast, grandiose narcissists are characterized by the jealousy and envy of those who are richer or more successful than they are. They despise those who do not pay attention to them, and they exalt those who see it as a benefit to them. Their lack of concern for the needs and desires of others leads them to exploit and belittle people who seem less important than them. While they are comfortable in superficial relationships, they find it difficult to establish close and intimate relationships. In romantic relationships, they begin with wonderful words and promises to give the other the impression that they are unique until they trap them, but then they are very stingy with their emotions and their commitment to the relationship. The narcissist is incapable of giving love and affection, and all he wants is for the other person to care for him. And if the partner demands more attention, the narcissist goes out to establish fleeting relationships with others. They do not stand any criticism and consider any observation as a hurting arrow or rejection of them. They also do not tolerate failure and consider any failure that happens to them the responsibility of the other, instead of reviewing themselves.
Second: Fragile narcissism
It is true that the clinical picture of a fragile narcissist is less distinct than that of grandiose narcissism, so that it is difficult to distinguish it from other clinical diagnoses, particularly borderline personality disorders, schizophrenia, or paranoia. suicide.
Fragile narcissists and grandiose narcissists share dreams of great success and, like them, do not care about others and consider everything their duty. They also place great importance on being recognized and are highly dependent on how others perceive them. Focusing on themselves, they experience their difficulties in a very passive way and are often anxious, envious, and sometimes depressed.
They want to occupy the first positions but are somewhat aware that they do not have the required capabilities or that their goals are too high. They are generally of the secretive and reserved type, may hide their sense of greatness behind false humility, and seek the love and respect of others through a tempting complaint process and sometimes through guilt and manipulation.
The same person may live in a state of “greatness” followed by a state of “fragility.” This is not surprising, because behind the greatness there is always great fragility. A narcissist's increased interest in what others think of others stems from a constant need for reassurance through the other's view of their ability to be likable. Their claim to superiority is an attempt to compensate for their low self-esteem, which is at the expense of others for the grandiose narcissist or at the expense of himself for the fragile narcissist.
There are two types of fragile narcissists:
The former carry low self-esteem and a sense of their own worthlessness as well as a great need for recognition by others. These people avoid confrontation because they fear anything that threatens their self-esteem. They are hypersensitive and afraid of any kind of criticism. They feel that no one recognizes them or their true value, so they hide behind a false “I” that may give them the image of a person who is very consistent with what is required of him. The fragile narcissist is ashamed of not being what is expected of him.
The second type of fragile narcissist is one who has high self-esteem but is not independent and overly cautious, bringing his personality closer to the paranoid type. Behind a facade of kindness and fragility, these narcissists are ambitious and sensitive, with the impression that they are criticized or disregarded, leading to feelings of humiliation and quick psychological wounding. Their reactions tend to be depression rather than aggression, and it is not uncommon for some of them to attempt suicide.
Third: perverted narcissism
It is a severe and serious disorder of the narcissistic personality since it is associated with moral deviation. The famous scientist "Erich Fromm" was the first to diagnose Hitler, saying that he had "malignant narcissism" and considered this trait the most dangerous because it carried the seeds of destruction and inhumanity.
Like the grandiose narcissist, the perverted narcissist has no empathy for others. While the first focuses completely on himself and does not realize his negative impact on others, we find that the second is fully aware of the pain he causes to the other, but he does not care about it, but rather feels pleasure when seeing it. A perverted narcissist needs to be admired because he is a narcissist, but he also needs prey because he is a pervert.
This type of narcissist invades the psychological space of others to possess his qualities or vitality and attacks his self-esteem and self-confidence to the detriment of his own narcissism. What drives him is envy, because the success of the other puts him in front of his weaknesses and failures, and this is what he cannot stand. And since he cannot match the one he envies, he works to humiliate and destroy him. What is amazing about him is his ability to persuade and manipulate others and make him do what he wants, even if at his expense.
The perverted narcissist does not attack directly, but through subtle suggestions, threats, pressure, or guilt, and may push his prey to commit a mistake so that he can humiliate her more and more and degrade her. In the family, the perverted narcissist does not tolerate family harmony and strives to turn everyone against everyone. He never admits his mistakes, but he blames others for all his failures and falls on them all his infirmities, and when the pervert is exposed to the danger of revealing himself, he presents himself as a victim.
He is a first-class strategic planner who knows exactly what to do and controls everything to the smallest detail. He does not do things that are blatantly against the laws and social norms, but rather stays on the limits of what can fall under the rule of law. That's why you see this type of persona pervasive in the circles of power. His ability to lie with the lack of moral deterrence and the ease of establishing social relationships enables him to achieve rapid success, whether social or financial.
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