Psychological and moral killing of a child: It is very important that you read it and most importantly understand it as parents
Hello dear visitors of my child's world,
we begin this article with a question for all of you: Do you have an idea of the simplest steps through which you know how to kill your son or daughter??
Murder here does not mean physical killing, but psychological and moral killing by the wrong education method, and here are many of those wrong methods whose impact on the child is stronger than the knife.
Among these methods we find the following:
Education in the manner of cruelty and verbal violence:
What is verbal violence: It is the verbal abuse of a child on the grounds that it is one of the means of punishment for him.
If you do any of the following, you are a verbal abuser and cruel to your child:
1- Pray for the child.
2- Contempt, intimidation and threats.
3- Use of vulgar language and constant criticism of the child.
4- Hitting hard.
5- Continuous reprimand with notice of inferiority and inferiority.
Do you know how to kill your son from your upbringing?
These methods of education create from your child:
1- A child who is very sensitive to even the simplest things.
2- A child who tends to punish himself for everything small and large (for example, consciously physical abuse).
3- A very anxious and hesitant child.
4- A cowardly child.
5- A depressed child: There is a study confirming that children who were subjected to verbal violence became depressed about twice as much as children who were not subjected to cursing, beating and other such wrong methods.
All these problems were just the psychological effect of that wrong education.
As for the health and physical impact:
1- Low level of intelligence:
A study confirmed by Dr. Martin Thatcher of Harvard University and a comparative study published by the American Journal of Psychiatry “on the lack of gray matter in the brain (neurons), which is related to a lower level of intelligence.
2- Decreased ability to analyze:
So that the child is unable to analyze some things and repeat the same mistakes in the same way (and the mother is surprised when he repeats the same mistakes that are severely punished).
3- Decreased complex thinking:
According to studies, about 60% of those exposed to these wrong methods of education are academic failures, and the mother begins to notice these matters in his weakness in subjects that need thinking, for example, mathematics.
You can imagine that you are raising a child like this and want him to be the best child and wonder why he became so sharp and abnormal behavior as a teenager.
Educational behaviors and behaviors that are forbidden to be used with the child because they have a very negative impact on them:
Raising a child is the biggest investment that parents can make in their lives, if it is done in a healthy, aware and balanced manner. So we have to pay attention and avoid some behaviors and behaviors in dealing with our children that would negatively affect the building of their personalities.
We mention the following:
Scare the child with ghoul, goblin, thief, fire, syringe and the doctor
Raising children to be reckless, strong-tongued, and insulting to others
Exaggeration in the good faith of children
Exaggeration in mistrusting them
Making fun of children and making fun of them and their speech
Raising them not to take responsibility
Defending the child in his presence and justifying his mistakes
Treating children the same way in guidance, politeness and treatment
The lack of parents' cooperation with the school and the poor selection of children's schools
Falsification of facts in front of children and the establishment of evasion from the truth for them
Some of them said we didn't want another girl
Giving them all they want of money and requirements
.pray for the boys
Raising children with negative orders and intentions
Raising children to be concerned only with appearances
Raising them to ridicule and follow things and bad phrases
Treating the child harshly and harshly in all cases, or treating him with leniency, whether he is right or wrong
Not accustoming children to order, arrangement and planning in all their affairs
Focusing on the mistakes of the son
For parents to force children to choose hobbies and tendencies
Remind the child of his past mistakes
Familiarize children with the implementation of commands and prohibitions after repeating them one after the other
Imposing orders on the child without being convinced of their performance
Define a policy for dealing with the child that does not change no matter what his behavior is
Parents' reluctance to impose discipline on the child
Not to deal with the child's mistakes with a long-term policy
Educators' failure to understand the motives that lead the child to wrong behavior
Parents' acceptance is a condition of the child
Excessive repeated promises to the child
Punishing the child as an accidental punishment for good behavior
Not to punish the wrong behavior of the child
Non-positive suggestion of the child
Unfair comparison with other children
Inconsistency or duplication from one value to another, or from one educational position to another
The child's need for mercy, love and affection is not satisfied
Not observing the regulations of corporal punishment when raising a child
Not taking into account individual differences when dealing with a child
Not gradual in dealing with the child
Take care of your children, as we strive to raise a new generation with a sound upbringing that will make them in the future normal individuals with balanced personalities.
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