?? How do we build a psychologically healthy, balanced and intellectually creative child
Welcome to all dear visitors to my child's world, in order to build a psychologically sound, balanced and creative child.. we must always be in a relationship of great respect and continuous communication with him. If an error occurs, it must be corrected respectfully, without insulting or underestimating it.
These are some tips that we remind ourselves that our children always deserve the best from us
How do parents contribute to charging their child's affection to create a balanced and creative one??
Emotional charging of the child is more important than the food itself. A warm embrace is the cheapest medicine to treat children’s anxiety, with the need to support this by being consistent in the treatment between parents and spending time with him doing the things he loves and not assigning him difficult tasks that exceed his abilities while searching for and strengthening strengths. We can support and enhance the talents inherent in our children and extract their talents and work to help them refine and restore them through the following practical directions
To reduce the child’s stubbornness, respect what he does, even if it is playing, and do not ask him to do things that you want him to do directly, but only after he has finished.
Avoid giving negative characteristics to the child, such as: shy or inactive, as this will push the child to act according to this description and may lead to a low self-confidence
If the parents do not show the boy their love for him and do not express it in word or deed, the bridges of bonding between the son and his family will weaken, and this may be a reason for their disobedience.
When the father imposes his opinion without discussion, he will succeed in directing the appearance of the son, but he will not succeed in changing his inner convictions, which may cause rebellion whenever the opportunity arises.
One of the great tasks is to raise our children on the Qur’an from an early age, and to take advantage of the childhood stage in their memorization of the strength of their memory and their desire for imitation.
Let your son be free, and what is meant here is that he be given an opportunity in intentional situations to make the decision and bear his responsibility, either with a word yes or a word no or a word of time to think.
If you hit a child lightly and you reprimand him, he would cry, and if you hit him a stronger blow than you and you were joking with him, he would laugh, for moral pain is more harmful than physical pain.
It is nice to allow your child to ask and not be repressed and to answer his questions objectively that suits his age and mind, and he is not punished in front of anyone, especially his brothers and friends
Parents’ involvement in some of their children’s toys greatly strengthens the bond between parents and children, so that play is a very important part of education.
Trust your children, their honesty, their innocence, do not put the possibility of lying in the foreground so that you will not be a reason for their lies.
Psychological punishment may have the best effect on the child, such as abandoning him or not listening to what he says, provided that it does not exceed an hour during which the child knows his mistake.
Constant keenness on children’s superiority and distinction in the school must comply with its requirements, such as providing a calm atmosphere for this and successful communication with the school administration
Our keenness to raise our children a good upbringing is part of our social responsibility to provide a leader generation that helps advance the nation and overcome obstacles and adversities
Education is a conscious, diligent work whose goal is to develop the instinct to build man intellectually, spiritually, morally and physically.
Always make him feel that he is responsible and we give him tasks appropriate to his nature and abilities through which he knows that he is in control of his life and a decision-maker
We prepare for him situations that make him feel that he is able to achieve and succeed without being incapacitated, and we know that he has the right as a human to make mistakes, and he has to think how to fix his mistake.
We listen attentively to him and his thoughts and feelings and help him to understand them and express them better. We respect them, whatever they are.
We always see him as a special and unique person and he sees our love for him in everything we do not just by kissing and cuddling.
We maintain a spirit of fun, humor and laughter in order to help him balance psychologically and relieve the psychological and nervous pressure that he may go through while trying to prove himself.
We support and develop his talents and encourage him to practice them, provide all the mechanisms he needs to inspire him, and allocate a corner of the house as a workshop to practice his skill in it and provide him with its requirements. He praised every step towards sculpting his talent even if it was small.
: Talent destroyers for my child
A child is born with innate skills and they grow with him with proper guidance of his abilities to show them well with time and with the development of his age. Our job is to hone this skill, not destroy it (even unintentionally). Together, we learn about the most important things that destroy and kill the talents of your children, so we must pay close attention to avoiding them.
: hitting in the face
It kills 300-400 neurons in the brain, while scanning on the head creates new brain cells
:Electronic games
It kills social intelligence and linguistic intelligence and causes brain hemorrhage for intense concentration, and brain cells are consumed prematurely and when he grows up he loses some skills
:the irony
Making fun of the mother in front of her son makes the child become introverted and fearful and stop thinking right because the child derives talent from his mother, according to the latest studies. And the ridicule of the child's ideas and the non-educational comment on his production, and thus his motivation becomes low
Closing the door of dialogue with the child from childhood due to wrong customs and traditions, thus killing his linguistic and social intelligence
Marginalization of children and ordering them to remain silent and harassing them on occasions, for example
Avoid drinking water, especially during education
The brain consists of 85% of water. A glass of water (small bottles) should be drunk every forty-five minutes. If it does not drink, the body makes involuntary movements (coughing, sneezing, moving the chair, pulling the table, showing the educator that he is making inconvenience)
: Not eating breakfast
People who do not eat breakfast will have low blood sugar, which leads to insufficient food reaching the brain cells, which leads to their degeneration . Also, beware of fast food
Teaching by indoctrination and not taking into account the inclinations and abilities of the student
Not enabling children to live their normal childhood and immersing them in educational activities. Graffiti is caused by the lack of free writing in the early years.
Forcing the child to reduce his line in the primary stage, as the large font symbolizes self-confidence
Phrases that destroy the feelings of the child should be avoided
The child is a mass of feelings and sensations, and he surpasses the adult in that. And words have a terrible impact on his thinking, upbringing and the formation of his personality. Positive words instill in his mind convictions of development, creativity, achievement, distinction and balance. Negative words generate in his personality weakness, anxiety, and a failure to try to succeed and excel in all areas of life. Parents should instill in their children the strength of character and their love for him
And such touching words only show how much they hate this
:You stupid
Never say this word to him, as that detracts from him in front of his peers. It is possible for a psychological contract to arise in his head around this word
Words of cursing or cursing
Never ever say that to him. Don't insult anyone in front of him, those dirty words build him a shaky disrespectful personality
: wishing death to the child
Don't tell him, "If you had died when your mother gave birth to you" or something like that. This gives him heartbreak for himself and hate for himself. That might make him commit suicide
: You are lazy and do nothing
This phrase is very dangerous. If you tell the child that, you will give him a lack of confidence that he can get bored or study better
Use "no" a lot
Don't use the expression "don't..don't..don't do this and that." Rather, use another phrase, such as “I think that this method is the most appropriate and best, and you can do it, that will support him in his work.”
A father who is cruel to his child and beats him in order to subdue him without persuasion, is thus not only nurturing in him aggressive tendencies, but also encouraging him to patterns of wrong behavior
Mentioning the child's faults in front of others is a fatal mistake that some mothers make in an attempt to unload their anger from their children's harmful stubbornness.
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